Growing up being neither feminine or alpha male-ish has been a struggle only because everyone in my family, taught me to be a person and being a person doesn’t really have anything to do with gender. It’s just honoring your true self. And in celebration of that, here are 10 essential ways to tell if you’re embracing the classic tomboy spirit, just like we do here at Tomboy Tarts.
Mother and the rest of my family dreads me being a tomboy even at this age.
I grew up with classic tomboys on the film screen from Katherine Hepburn and Marlene Dietrich. Classic ladies who were not afraid to wear the pants.
Plus it didn’t help that I was always the late bloomer; the last amongst all my friends and family to fulfill all those obligatory duties of being a female.
But the tomboy spirit is very strong in my life and it keeps me healthy, happy and most of all, feel like an actual person who defies the gender stereotypes. At the end of the day, what are we tomboys except unique individuals just expressing our personalities to the world?
If you’re like me or any of the TT’s who co-created this site, then here’s 10 signs we think would make you a Tomboy Tart.
1. YOU THINK LIKE A PERSON, NOT A SEX
This has nothing to do with your sexual orientation. If you’re a Tomboy Tart, you embrace both your masculine and feminine sides and are comfortable with both. You like what you like and that’s that. There’s no rocket science to explain why Tomboy Tarts can be science or art geeks and then, still enjoy wearing sandals and lipstick with their pants and guy shirts.
2. YOU’RE PASSIONATE. NOT EMO.
Tomboy Tarts are passionate about their pursuits. They actually have hobbies and interests which they enjoy and sometimes take seriously. Whether it’s hiking, sports, gaming, arts n crafts, building, travelling, music or movies, Tomboy Tarts can get carried away if they have the means and energy to take their hobbies to the next level.
3. PANTS DEFINITELY GO WITH MAKEUP
Tomboy Tarts are comfortable wearing men’s clothes and apparel and donning makeup at the same time. It’s an ode to timeless beauties like Katherine Hepburn, Marlene Dietrich and Coco Chanel who grabbed gender stereotypes by the balls and made it their own. Nothing wrong with women wearing the pants especially since we prefer comfort to donning mother’s awful, fluffy doily dresses.
4. YOU ARE A CHIC GEEK
Another sign you enjoy being a Tomboy Tart is your geek chic i.e your obsession for the latest tech. You seem to know quite a lot about the latest computers, video games, smartphones and using the technology that comes with these new toys. You’ll go to great lengths to learn about complex software or hardware and you build self-esteem points just by how much you know. Racking up the latest tech is every Tomboy Tart’s Christmas dreams fulfilled. And no, you’re not a guy. 🙂
5. YOU ARE AN HONEST-TO-GOODNESS GIRL NEXT DOOR
Tomboy Tarts can’t stand surreptitious, in the closet behaviours in general. Most tomboys are pretty open, genuine and child-like. They approach life with a wonder very few adults still retain. So it will come to pass that while many reel at the receiving end of sharp criticism from society about their tomboy lifestyle, make no mistake about it, tomboys can dish out the goods when they want to. Most tomboys have a long fuse and are generally nice people but push us to a corner unnecessarily and your favourite tomboy could just transform into the world’s most frightening banshee.
6. YOU ENJOY THE TOMBOY CAVE
You may find this surprising but tomboys, like men, regularly seek solace in their self-made caves in which they rarely speak to other humans for days on end. This ties in very closely with point #2 where a Tomboy Tart is very busy engrossed in her career or a hobby. That’s because Tomboy Tarts are one helluva bunch of focused women. During times like these, such ladies can hardly be seen in public but that’s OK. She has equally cool Tomboy Tart friends who understand her need to concentrate on what needs to be done. The Tomboy Tart support network is second to none!
7. YOU CARE BUT NOT ALL THE TIME
Tomboy Tarts are really a weird bunch. Take it from one! 🙂 One of our annoying traits that most normal people hate about us is that we wear what we want and do what we want without blinking an eye about what the rest of the world thinks. Of course, we do backtrack sometimes when we DO care but generally, we leave that to the rest of the world.
8. YOU DON’T MIND BEING A DOOFUS
Tomboy Tarts love living on the edge sometimes. There’s always THAT dream, THAT new adventure to head off to. With such a risk-taking attitude ingrained into us, it’s no wonder that we can sometimes also behave like goofballs. Klutz can sometimes be our middle names while Doofus nicely rounds off our surnames.
9. YOU’RE THE GIRL GUYS LIKE BEING FRIENDS WITH
O, don’t even go there ladies! We Tomboy Tarts usually have no problems being the girl most guys like hanging out with, talking sports or sharing clothes. Sex obviously isn’t always in this equation and while most girls think this is a tragic circumstance, we Tomboy Tarts usually have no qualms about being looked over by our guy friends when it comes to the romance department. Things just become too mushy and complicated for our free-spirited nature. In fact, to be honest, most tomboys, if they ever do settle down, will do it very much later in life, after they’ve achieved their career highs or ‘doofus adventure dreams’. Maturity in relationships is what we like, not jelly donut high school musicals.
10. SHOPPING IN THE MEN’S DEPARTMENT IS FUN!
Whether you’re a petite 4′ 3″ or towering 6 footer, all Tomboy Tarts have shopped in the men’s department at least once in their colourful lifetimes. Just take a look into their closets and you’ll see what I mean. Whether it’s shoes, vests or the occasional ‘boyfriend shirt’, Tomboy Tarts find the practical, clean tailored lines of men’s clothing more appealing to their their logical tastes. And the best part? We actually get to wear clothes that fit us.